This is a tough one, and maybe you don’t agree–but that ‘s OK…
Our personal frameworks of the world and how it works may determine whether this is true or not or each of us…

He speaks of a couple whose home burnt down while they were out, and their three children died.  The husband and wife, being of different cultures and religions, dealt very differently with the loss.  No right or wrong here, just different and varying levels of suffering.

Suffering Leads to Grace, by Ram Dass